I am not a big person on having friends to begin with. I don't trust many people in this world. I found out the hard way that most of the people that call you "Friend" will stab you in the back when the right opportunity arises, or they will just stop being your friend because of something you did or said.
I for the last year and a half have developed a friendship with one of my female co-workers. She has recently went separate ways with her boyfriend of 12 years. Because of this I want to be the best friend that I can be and help her out where I can; i.e. watching her kids while she goes out with her other friends or just so she can get away and have some time to herself. SO, why is it when a married man offers to help out his single female friend, it is assumed that all he wants to do is cheat on his wife with this woman.
I just don't get it. IF there is no physical attraction between the two then why is it such a big f'ing deal??? If the married man loves his wife truly to the core then why can't she put her trust in him to be faithful to her, and not step out of his marital boundaries in this type of situation? I just don't get it.
If you are wondering, yes this is going on in my life right now. I can't seem to wrap my head around it to comprehend it. I have been with my wife for over 11 years and have been married for over 10 of them. I have never stepped outside of my marriage for any type of infidelity, emotional or physical. I have been 100% faithful to my wife. Have I thought about what it would be like to have sex with another woman??? Yes, but you find me a married man who says he has not thought about it, then I will find you the biggest liar in the world. But because I have not acted upon these feelings, thoughts, or emotions, then that makes me like every other man in the world.
I believe that when I took the vowels of marriage, I meant them!!! I just don't get why its okay for a woman to just up and accuse her man of wanting to cheat, just because he has a female friend. Now if the tables were turned, then she would be pissed that you would not trust her with this other guy being what she calls a friend...If she is married and he is single, it doesn't always mean that he wants to get in her pants or vise versa. Most women cheat on an emotional basis and don't think nothing about it because they don't think that it is a form of cheating. They believe that cheating is when they have intercourse with someone...Do most men care that their wives or girlfriends do this??? I think that they do not. As long as she is climbing in bed with him at the end of the night and not fucking the guy friend, then most guys just don't care.
Now that I have finished my rants and raves, I want to get back to my topic of trust. So why is it not okay for a guy to go to a girls house and watch her children, while she goes out and enjoys herself for the first time in a long time. I personally do not see anything wrong with this, but my wife just doesn't seem to think so...She says she doesn't know if she can trust me in this situation. I just wish that she would give me the benefit of the doubt and "TRUST ME!" I would not let myself get into that situation because I do love my wife, and not to mention my CHILDREN!!! With that I will end my dilemma with this...IF you don't trust the one you are with, then ask yourself, "Do you not trust yourself?"
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